Mental Health, Stress and Christmas: A Gentle Reflection for Difficult Seasons

Christmas often arrives with bright lights, warm adverts and the expectation that everyone should feel joyful. But in my work with adults, young people (11+) and carers at Jorvik Talking Therapies, I see a very different, very human side of this season.

For many people, Christmas brings anxiety, stress, low mood, grief or loneliness. If that’s how the season feels for you, please know this:

You are not failing, and there is nothing wrong with you for finding Christmas hard.

Why Christmas Can Intensify Difficult Emotions

Anxiety and Stress

The crowded schedules, financial pressure, social expectations and sensory overload can be overwhelming for anyone living with anxiety or chronic stress.

Low Mood

Shorter days, colder weather and the pressure to “get into the spirit” can deepen feelings of low mood or depression.

Grief

Christmas often highlights the absence of people we miss. Whether the loss is recent or years old, grief can feel heavier at this time of year.

Loneliness

Many people feel lonely in December, even if they are surrounded by others. Young people and carers often carry this quietly.

The Pressure on Carers

Carers frequently put their own needs last. Christmas can add extra emotional and practical demands, leaving little room to rest or breathe.

How These Feelings Can Show Up

• Trouble sleeping or increased fatigue
• Feeling tense, overwhelmed or on edge
• Low motivation or loss of interest in usual activities
• Irritability or emotional sensitivity
• Difficulty concentrating
• Feeling numb or disconnected
• Trying to hold everything together for others

Gentle Ways to Support Your Wellbeing This Christmas

Acknowledge What You’re Carrying

Your feelings are valid. You don’t have to pretend or meet anyone else’s expectations.

Create Small Moments of Calm

Short walks, time alone, grounding exercises or listening to something soothing can create space to breathe.

Simplify Where You Can

You are allowed to do less. Prioritise what matters most and let go of what drains you.

Set Kind Boundaries

It’s okay to say no. Protecting your emotional wellbeing is an act of self-respect.

Reach Out if You Feel Lonely

Talking to one safe person — a friend, family member or professional — can make a big difference.

Allow Space for Grief

Memories, emotions and tears are all part of love. You don’t have to hide them.

A Final Word of Care

Christmas doesn’t need to be perfect. It doesn’t need to look like anyone else’s. If you’re coping with anxiety, stress, low mood, grief, loneliness or the pressure of caring for others, please offer yourself the same gentleness you would offer someone you love.

If this season feels heavy, I’m here. At Jorvik Talking Therapies, I offer a warm, calm and understanding space for adults, young people and carers to explore whatever they’re carrying — at their own pace.

You don’t have to carry this alone.